She shared a story of a woman who took a relationship risk. After two decades of being reluctant to step forward and start dating, this woman finally approached a man who lived in her building and suggested they go out for coffee. It turned out well, and now
they are having regular dates. She feels liberated. You can read the whole story here.
It got me thinking. There's always a choice in our creative lives, too. This week I begin two online classes, "Your Book Starts Here," with forty-one writers from around the world who are making the choice to write their books. They've taken the risk to move away from what's safe and known, the areas where they feel competent, and test their creative edges by learning something new. I am watching them face the excitement and the fear of this. Some of them are new to online classes so there's that overwhelm of how to navigate the classroom, post a profile photo, make the tiny font sizes bigger. It's very easy to give up and go back to what is familiar.
And I find that usually life conspires to increase the edge when we try something new. Maybe we've signed up for a new writing class or decided that 2011 is the year we're finally going to get this book done. Of course, there's a sudden influx of other changes--maybe challenges with job, kids, family, money, health make it seem impossible to have the energy to leave the familiar. I know. I've been there. When outer changes accelerate, it seems insane to envision adding something new.
Here's my two cents, born of many decades of experiencing this. Sometimes that's just the right moment to take back control, creatively. To do something you want, rather than react to everyone else's needs. Move from reactor to creator.
It'll take your life in a new direction. If you put your creativity first, the joy it brings you can even reduce the other stuff to a manageable size.
This Week's Writing Exercise
3. Then, write down your Process Goals (any goals that pertain to your growth as a writer, which you’d like to realize in the next three months):