Years
ago, I lived near the excitement and chaos of New York City--close
enough to train in for an opera or play. The speed of life was fast
there, even though our home was in the suburbs. A family change brought
us all to a remote village in northern New England. I loved the idea
of calming down, working on my next novel, and trying life in the "real"
country.
I thought I'd be bored. To my surprise, I fell in love with it.
Winter
where I live now is the "holiday postcard" type--deep snow, fierce
winds, blue chilly skies, and staying indoors except for snowshoeing and
skiing. Winter is a force to surrender to, not fight. When the plow
doesn't clear your road for hours after a storm, you adjust your plans.
My neighbors, who have lived here for generations, know how to
handle winter. They try to enjoy it, rather than dashing about and
getting a lot done. Instead, they spend time with family and friends,
work on indoor projects, read and knit and do jigsaw puzzles.
It's
as if winter is the perfect time for a retreat. A time to stand back
and get a better look at life. To think about what's to come.
The Value of Retreating
Spiritual
students know the value of retreating to deepen their practice.
Sometimes it comes in the form of a conference or seminar, sometimes as a
week at a monastery or retreat center, other times taking a class or
studying with like-minded souls. Getting away from the stress of daily
life does let us contemplate what's working, what we'd like to learn
next, what we need to focus on.
I love this quote from the Tao Te Ching:
"If you want to become full, let yourself be empty." Retreats are a
way of emptying out what you know and becoming empty and still enough to
hear what you were ignoring.
What does this have to do with
books? Everything! Retreats--whether for a day, week, or
afternoon--help you rejuvenate your writing. You can retreat to get a
new view of a writing problem, make progress, get unstuck, or even look
at your whole project in a different way.
Retreats allow you to give up what you know, ask new questions, and listen for the answers you don't expect.
Creating a Winter Writing Retreat for Yourself
Most
writers don't even consider retreating because there's not enough time
or they don't give themselves the luxury or permission to break away
from daily responsibilities and immerse themselves in their art.
But retreats can be small, negotiated, and very valuable. To retreat successfully you only need four things:
1. a stretch of uninterrupted time negotiated from those who depend on you
2. prompts or another source of inspiration to guide your retreat
3. a safe, nurturing place to be, again without interruptions
4. your book-in-progress and writing tools to work on it
Finding the Time to Retreat
For
many of us, there's no time. There's always too much to do, too many
things to take care of. So, to retreat, we have to give up something to
make space in our calendars.
What are you willing to give up to
get away? Most of us have what life coach Jennifer Louden calls "shadow
monsters," those activities that we use to distract ourselves, numb out
emotions, or get approval from others. Maybe you like to watch the TV
news each evening. Or stop en route to work for a latte. Or call a
friend for a long whinge each week. These are the small time-suckers
that I look at first--what could go, just for this retreat, to free up
some time?
Sometimes family and friends can help you see what you
might let go of, just temporarily, to make time for an hour's retreat
or an afternoon or evening off.
If you are dreaming of a longer
retreat, look at weekends. Two or more days takes some negotiating,
especially if you have childcare or eldercare responsibilities. And
longer retreats usually demand that you physically get away from your
life--to a retreat center, a cabin, even a nearby hotel. Most writers
benefit greatly from this kind of silence and space.
Because so many do, there are now wonderful retreat centers for writers. Start by looking at The Writers' Retreat or Retreats for Writers
lists. Search by location, amenities, and cost to see what works for
you. A retreat center might be as close as your town--they are
springing up everywhere. Also consider monasteries and religious
centers.
To get a sense of the benefit of such get-aways, read this wonderful piece on
retreating at the famous MacDowell Colony near Peterborough, New
Hampshire. It'll put you right into the atmosphere of a winter retreat!
Prompts and Sources of Inspiration
If
you are in the middle of a final draft and just need to focus on it,
you may not need anything else but uninterrupted space and time. But if
you are retreating without any idea of what outcome you want, it's good
to have guidance. I usually carry along a few books for inspiration
and--most important!--great writing prompts.
I try one prompt every day, if I'm retreating for longer than an afternoon. Usually in the morning.
I
also bring along four or five of my favorite books to read when I get
stuck. Unless I am at final revision, I don't worry about inadvertent
plagarism. Mostly, I use them to jumpstart my image bank. Reading just
a few lines from Lief Enger's Peace Like a River, for instance, gets me directly into the cadence of dialogue--he is a master. I choose Colum McCann's Let the Great World Spin for its imagery.
Taking a Winter Retreat Today
This
afternoon I have my first retreat of the new year planned. I'm going
"away" for four hours, by myself, coming home late for dinner most
likely. I'm going to the local library for part of my retreat--there's a
corner table in the fiction stacks that's secluded, warm, and has
enough room for my laptop and books. I bring my earbuds and plug into
music to keep out the noise of other people. To create a real retreat
world.
I've
got my first prompt to work on. "Write about the color red." It's
from Natalie Goldberg, and it's one I've used before. I always get
something new from it.
I'm also going to look at my writing
goals for the new year, decide what kind of rhythm I'm going to set
myself and what I am willing to let go of to make that happen.
Your writing exercise this week:
Consider a retreat. Look at your calendar for January and see what
might be possible. Design it like you would a longed-for vacation, for
that is exactly what it is.
Friday, January 4, 2013
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