Sex is hard to write. I've written two sex scenes in my life
so I'm no expert, but I found each extraordinarily difficult.
The main challenge was not any reservations about including sex scenes in my fiction but how to make them reveal more about character than the character's actions. That's my personal preference as a reader, as well as a writer, and it may not be yours. You may be a Fifty Shades of Gray kind of writer and reader, and more power to you. But I wanted to address the topic, especially after a coaching client sent me this email.
The main challenge was not any reservations about including sex scenes in my fiction but how to make them reveal more about character than the character's actions. That's my personal preference as a reader, as well as a writer, and it may not be yours. You may be a Fifty Shades of Gray kind of writer and reader, and more power to you. But I wanted to address the topic, especially after a coaching client sent me this email.