Years
ago, in a fiction class, a writer was defending his work. "It really
happened," he kept insisting to the feedback group who wanted to suggest
a few changes. "Yes, it probably did," our instructor finally said.
"It's real. But is it a good story?"
Fast forward to a memoir
group I taught this past spring. A woman writing her first memoir was
concerned about leaving anything out. "It all really happened," she
kept telling me. "It's my life!" And it was quite a life, full of
challenges and crises. I remembered that fiction class long ago. "Yes,
it is your life," I told her, borrowing from my long ago teacher. "But
can you find the narrative within it? What parts of your life would
make a good story?"